This is the story from Carson McCullers
http://homepage.ntu.edu.tw/~karchung/A_Tree.pdf
A Tree. A
Rock. A Cloud.
by Carson McCullers (1917-1967)
It is worth the read.
I adapted/interpreted the story for a young client in foster care
because of a previous abusive environment.
A Rock, A Tree, A Cloud
I knew this person who wanted to be
close, but was afraid. She decided to
practice on something safe. Now you may
think this a strange story.
This person decided to love a
rock. That is right - a rock. It was big. It did not change and it did not move. It did not go away. With practice, she learned to love this
rock. Now some people try to love a
piece of clay because you can shape clay anyway you want. But she learned that when you love something
and are close to it, it has its own shape naturally. You don't try to really change it.
Well, after loving the rock, she
decided to love a tree. A big tree. This grows slowly. This tree changes slowly. It doesn't go away. Now some people who are aftaid to get close,
try to get a whole forest to love them.
But she learned that this was using the trees and not really love. So she let this tree grow just as slowly as
she could. The tree stayed and grew.
Well, after loving a rock and a
tree, she decided to love a cloud. A
cloud? Yes, a cloud. She was ready to get close to something that
did change. Something that did go
away. She was a little nervous but she
had the strength inside to do this.
Now some people would put this
cloud in a bottle, so it would not go away.
So it would not change. But she
learned that if you put a cloud in a bottle it has no shape at all. She learned it was best to be herself. Love, like a cloud had to finded its own
shape/.
Well, after loving a rock, a tree,
and a cloud, she knew she was ready to get close to a person. Sometimes a person needs to change. And
sometimes a person needs to go away. The feeling of love doesn't have to go away. A puppy becomes a dog. A kitten becomes a cat. A girl becomes a woman. She learned all this. She knew all this. So she was ready to love to a person. Just like you.
Hello John - I found your blog recently and have to say that I really appreciate your perspective. I come from not so different an education of our predicament and share your belief that it is primarily about humanity and how we as a species can/should/will respond.
ReplyDeleteFor me it becomes very disconcerting when otherwise perfectly sane, smart, savvy individuals lapse into magical thinking in order to explain our way out of this. You do not do this and I find it comforting.
Cheers!
Jef